| Are you doing what you really want to do or did you | | | | network has forced her to ask herself, 'What do I |
| just fall or wander into the job you now have. As a | | | | really want to do?' |
| friend of ours once said,' I am one of twenty two | | | | If I can't continue the habit and stay in the industry, |
| doctors in our family. The only ones in our family who | | | | 'What do I really want to do?'She started to ask |
| are not doctors are the dogs and cats'. Did you decide | | | | herself;What really drives me?What made me do |
| what you wanted to do or are you one of a growing | | | | what I did?What did I love most about the |
| number whose work was dictated by circumstances | | | | job?Gradually she had to acknowledge that most of |
| or their parents?The question is not what are you | | | | her working life had been driven by fear. Fear of not |
| doing and who put you there but; are you happy? If | | | | being able to pay the mortgage.Fear of getting into |
| you are not doing what you really want to do then the | | | | debt.Fear of failing a credit check.Fear of being a |
| chances are that you are unhappy and that is | | | | failure.Fear of having to be on her own.However, she |
| affecting your health and relationships as well as other | | | | also realised that what had driven her to stay in her |
| parts of your life.As John D Rockefeller III stated "The | | | | industry all her life was the love she had for putting |
| road to happiness lies in two simple principles: find what | | | | teams of people together. The love of developing |
| interests you and that you can do well, and put your | | | | people who felt they couldn't achieve. The love of |
| whole soul into it every bit of energy and ambition and | | | | being a nanny, nurse, coach, counsellor etc to young |
| natural ability you have."The problem is that although | | | | and developing sales teams. The enjoyment she got |
| we are aware, deep down, of what we want to do | | | | out of caring for others, steering them, cajoling them. It |
| the hard part is putting those thoughts into action. | | | | was almost that over the years her sales teams had |
| Actually doing it. Perhaps you are trapped in the | | | | become her family and she enjoyed that. What's more |
| thinking process that says...; " well I can't really change". | | | | she found that her greatest enjoyment had come |
| How will I pay the mortgage? How will I pay the school | | | | from turning around ailing, little known or unsuccessful |
| fees? How will I ........Or perhaps your thinking says it is | | | | products.Now she started to work with a new vigour. |
| better the devil you know than the one you don't.Or | | | | Instead of being an old or aged, victim, with little or no |
| are you thinking well I'm lucky really I have a regular job | | | | hope of getting work. She started to scan the ads and |
| that pays sufficient salary (just about) and others are | | | | rewrite her CV as a caring, coach, who loved |
| not as lucky as me?Whatever your story. Just stop | | | | developing and growing sales teams of young people. |
| for a moment and ask yourself:What is really driving | | | | Someone who could be relied upon to introduce vigour |
| me?What makes me do what I do?Sarah, a friend of | | | | and sparkle to old, tired and little known products.We |
| ours, is 57 years of age, single, an only child with no | | | | don't have a happy ending to the story yet, but Sarah |
| parents alive and no children. In our language, she is the | | | | had three interviews last week and one company has |
| end of the line. A successful sales manager for an | | | | called to see her again as they are interested in what |
| international company. But her world has just collapsed. | | | | she might have to offer them. We are all keeping our |
| A week before Christmas she was made redundant | | | | fingers crossed.And Sarah? She has a new spring in |
| with little or no warning. She has given her life to the | | | | her step. A belief that she has discovered what she |
| industry she worked in and feels very let down, bitter | | | | really wants to do. She is constantly focussed in the |
| and disappointed. After all, she had it all worked out. | | | | positive. We have no doubt that she will get what she |
| Retirement happens at 60, the mortgage will be paid | | | | wants.The moral to the story. The answer is always |
| off, the pension fund will start to pay up and then she | | | | inside yourself. The answer is in your thoughts. Look |
| will be able to decide what she wants to do in the | | | | deep inside yourself. Ask yourself; What really drives |
| future.But that hasn't happened. She is three years | | | | me? What deep down is the reason I'm on the planet. |
| short and needs work. Her initial calls to her vast | | | | Don't cheat yourself: stay with the question.. You will |
| network of friends and colleagues has resulted in | | | | know when you find it because your whole body feels: |
| either, sympathy, not returned or I'm sorry but...you | | | | yes I've got the right answer. Then: Just accept it, |
| understand...we need ur hmph younger people... On the | | | | change your thoughts and believe in yourself. And |
| other hand there are those who kept her confidence | | | | watch life change.On other hand, as Beth Mende |
| up by inviting her for an interview only to find on arrival | | | | Conny stated, "If you don't take control of your life, |
| that either there was no job or ur hmmph we found | | | | don't complain when others do."Julie and Graham |
| someone younger.So Sarah was forced to ask | | | | improve your intuition, initiative and energy levels |
| herself: 'Where do I go from here?'She doesn't want | | | | please go to: |
| to retire....she's too young for that!!! The lack of | | | | It's free. |
| response from her industry and so called friends and | | | | |